top of page

"The $20 Life Coach: How AI is Making Self-Help Accessible to Everyone"

Writer: Jennifer LathanJennifer Lathan

Sometimes our biggest challenge is recognizing when we need assistance and being honest with ourselves about it. Like many of you, I have found myself caught in the familiar struggle – knowing I needed support but facing the very real challenges of limited time, the complexity of finding the right therapist, and the sometimes-overwhelming task of sorting through endless self-help books and online resources to try and self-solve. My personal journey has led me to explore Generative AI as a tool for self-discovery and emotional support. What I discovered surprised and delighted me (every time!). 


I thought: Here is a way to take the vast wealth of available mental and emotional health and personal development resources and filter them through the lens of my specific situation, needs, and challenges.


While AI isn't a replacement for professional mental health support, it has shown itself to be a powerful tool in those moments when I need to understand myself better, when I need guided reflection and personalized strategies for growth or to cope.


Why Should You Try It: The beauty of AI as a self-help tool lies in its ability to meet you exactly where you are, without judgment or preconception. Unlike static self-help resources, AI can engage in dynamic conversations that adapt to your specific situation, helping you explore your challenges from different angles. What makes this particularly powerful is the AI's capacity to remember your previous interactions and build upon them (using paid AI accounts), creating a continuity of support that feels both personal and progressive. It's like having a thought partner who's available 24/7, ready to help you process your thoughts and feelings at your own pace. – And heck, $20/month on-call support sounds very affordable!

When we're struggling with emotional challenges, what we often need isn't just advice – we need someone (or something) to help us untangle our thoughts and reflect them back to us in a way that makes sense. AI excels at this kind of cognitive restructuring support. Through careful prompting and ongoing dialogue, it can help identify patterns in your thinking, suggest alternative perspectives, and guide you through evidence-based techniques like cognitive behavioral therapy exercises or mindfulness practices, write you a daily mantra, or help you with suggesting journaling topics. The key is learning how to effectively communicate with AI to get the most meaningful support for your specific needs.


Some Ways to Get Started: The power of AI-assisted self-help lies in its customization capabilities. By sharing your specific challenges, preferences, and goals, you can coach the AI to provide support that resonates with your personal values and circumstances. Here are some effective ways to start (and optimize) your AI interactions for emotional/psychological support:

  • Frame your challenges specifically: Instead of saying "I'm stressed," try "I'm feeling overwhelmed by work deadlines and family obligations, and I'm struggling to maintain boundaries."

  • Request specific techniques: Ask for exercises or strategies that align with your preferences, such as "Can you guide me through a breathing exercise that I can do discreetly at my desk?" or “What are suggestions for ways I can break this bad habit or way of thinking?”

  • Build on what works: Share feedback to the AI tool about what helps and what doesn't, allowing the AI to refine its support approach.

  • Use scenario exploration: Present specific situations and ask the AI to help you brainstorm different ways to handle them.

  • Maintain conversation history: Reference previous discussions to build continuity and depth in your self-reflection work.

  • Set clear goals: Articulate what you hope to achieve through these interactions, whether it's better stress management, improved communication skills, or enhanced self-awareness.


Let us know what you’ve tried and how it worked. If you hit a wall, reach out and let’s brainstorm some prompt variations together.


Disclaimer: Importantly, we are not medical professionals. While AI can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and personal growth, it should never be seen as a substitute for professional mental health care. If you're experiencing severe emotional distress, having thoughts of self-harm, or contemplating suicide, please seek immediate professional help. Call 911 for emergencies, reach out to your healthcare provider, or contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7, to speak with a trained counselor. Remember, seeking help is not a sign of weakness – it's an act of self-respect and courage.


Comments


Contact us for how you can help make a difference. 

Success! Message received.

© 2024 by PHInc. Proudly created with Wix.com

bottom of page